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May 22, 2025
Do you find yourself constantly saying yes, even when you’re overwhelmed? Do you avoid conflict at all costs, or feel crushed by even the slightest hint of disapproval? If so, you’re not alone—and it might be more than just a “nice” personality trait.
Many people struggle with people-pleasing, but for individuals with ADHD, it often runs deeper. It’s not just about being agreeable—it’s about avoiding the emotional pain of feeling rejected, criticized, or like a burden.
This emotional intensity is commonly tied to something called Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria (RSD). While it’s not a formal diagnosis, RSD is a widely recognized experience among people with ADHD. It refers to the overwhelming fear of rejection or failure, and the intense emotional response that follows—even when the threat is imagined.
In this blog, we’ll explore how ADHD can make people more prone to approval-seeking behavior, why emotional sensitivity plays such a big role, and how healing involves building self-worth from within—not just from praise.
Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria, or RSD, is a term used to describe the intense emotional pain that comes from perceived or actual rejection, criticism, or failure. For people with ADHD, these emotional reactions can feel overwhelming—far beyond what most would consider a typical response.
Though RSD isn’t formally recognized in the DSM (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders), it’s a widely reported and relatable experience, especially among adults with ADHD. Many describe it as a sudden wave of shame, anxiety, or guilt—even in situations where no real harm was done.
It can look like:
– Over-apologizing for minor mistakes
– Avoiding any situation where failure is possible
– Replaying conversations and obsessing over how others might perceive them
– Feeling devastated by constructive feedback or neutral expressions
To avoid this emotional discomfort, many people with RSD begin to people-please—saying yes to everything, avoiding conflict, and trying to manage how others feel in order to feel safe themselves.
But this coping strategy, while understandable, often leads to burnout, resentment, and disconnection from one’s own needs. And that’s where deeper healing begins.
People with ADHD often experience the world more intensely—emotionally, mentally, and socially. One key reason for this is the way ADHD affects emotional regulation. The brain struggles to manage reactions proportionally, making rejection, criticism, or failure feel sharper and more personal.
This heightened sensitivity is made even more difficult by impulsivity, which can lead to quick emotional responses and overcorrection, like apologizing excessively or overcompensating to please others.
Then there’s the lived experience of growing up with ADHD. Many children and teens with ADHD are constantly told they’re too loud, too forgetful, too scattered—or simply “not trying hard enough.” Over time, this kind of chronic invalidation shapes how a person sees themselves.
To avoid further criticism or rejection, many adults with ADHD develop people-pleasing behaviors as a form of self-protection. Saying yes, avoiding confrontation, or trying to keep everyone happy becomes a survival strategy—not just a personality trait.
But understanding where these behaviors come from is the first step toward change. If you’ve ever felt like you’re “too much” or “not enough” all at once, you’re not alone.
You can learn more about the lasting impact of ADHD beyond childhood in our blog Understanding Adult ADHD: Beyond Childhood Symptoms.
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Are you struggling with intense emotions that feel impossible to control? Do impulsive actions or challenging relationships make it hard to maintain balance in your life? If so, you’re not alone. Many people face similar challenges, and that’s where Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) comes in.
DBT is a type of cognitive-behavioral therapy designed to help individuals regulate their emotions, cope with distress, and improve interpersonal skills. Originally developed to treat Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), DBT has since expanded to effectively address a wide range of mental health conditions, including anxiety, depression, and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).
In recent years, its popularity has soared, as more and more people have found success in managing emotional dysregulation through DBT’s structured approach. Whether it’s learning mindfulness, tolerating distress, or building healthier relationships, DBT offers practical strategies for real-life struggles.
So, if you’re tired of feeling overwhelmed and ready for a fresh start, DBT might just be the tool you need to regain control and start living a more balanced life.
Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) is a specialized form of Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT) designed to help individuals better regulate their emotions, manage stress, and build healthier relationships. Unlike traditional CBT, which focuses primarily on changing unhelpful thoughts and behaviors, DBT emphasizes the balance between acceptance and change. This approach equips individuals with practical tools to handle difficult emotions and navigate life’s challenges more effectively.
DBT was developed in the late 1980s by Dr. Marsha Linehan, a psychologist who sought to create a treatment specifically tailored for people struggling with emotional dysregulation, especially those with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). Over time, its scope expanded to include individuals dealing with anxiety, depression, eating disorders, PTSD, and even chronic stress.
Today, modern clinics like PsychPlus offer DBT as part of their comprehensive mental health services. Whether you’re seeking help for emotional instability or want to improve your coping skills, DBT can be a powerful tool in your mental health journey. To learn more about the services provided, visit the PsychPlus Homepage.
DBT is built on four key components that work together to help individuals manage intense emotions, improve relationships, and develop healthier coping mechanisms. Each of these components addresses a different aspect of emotional and behavioral challenges, making DBT a holistic and effective approach to mental well-being.
Mindfulness is at the heart of DBT, teaching individuals how to stay present and grounded, even in the face of overwhelming emotions. By focusing on the present moment without judgment, mindfulness helps reduce anxiety about the past or future.
For example, a person experiencing intense anger can use mindfulness techniques like deep breathing or body scanning to observe the emotion without reacting impulsively. Over time, this practice strengthens emotional awareness and self-control, leading to better emotional stability.
Distress tolerance focuses on handling difficult situations without making them worse. Life is full of moments when emotions run high, and reacting impulsively can lead to regret or harm. DBT teaches several techniques for managing distress, such as:
By practicing distress tolerance, individuals can navigate crises more effectively and avoid destructive behaviors.
Emotions can feel like an uncontrollable rollercoaster, especially for those dealing with emotional dysregulation. DBT’s emotion regulation skills teach individuals how to:
With these strategies, individuals gain greater control over their emotional responses and reduce the frequency of extreme emotional episodes.
Relationships are often a major source of emotional pain. DBT equips individuals with tools to navigate conflicts, set healthy boundaries, and communicate effectively. Key interpersonal skills taught in DBT include:
By improving communication and relationship management, DBT helps individuals build stronger, healthier connections with others.
These four core components of DBT work together to create a well-rounded therapeutic approach, empowering individuals to live more balanced and fulfilling lives.
Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) was initially created to treat Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), but over time, its effectiveness in helping individuals manage a wide range of mental health conditions has made it a go-to therapy for many. Below are some of the most common conditions that DBT can help with:
DBT was specifically designed to help individuals with BPD regulate their emotions, manage impulsive behavior, and build healthier relationships. If you’re interested in learning more about BPD and how it impacts individuals, check out our related blog: Understanding Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD).
Individuals with anxiety often experience racing thoughts and overwhelming worries. DBT’s focus on mindfulness and distress tolerance helps people manage anxious thoughts and stay grounded in the present.
For those dealing with depression, DBT offers tools to regulate emotions, increase positive experiences, and reduce vulnerability to negative emotions. The structured approach of DBT can be especially helpful for those experiencing chronic or treatment-resistant depression.
DBT can help individuals recognize and change passive-aggressive tendencies by improving communication and interpersonal effectiveness. For more on this topic, visit our related blog: Passive-Aggressive Behavior: A Hidden Sign of Mental Illness.
Emotional dysregulation often plays a significant role in eating disorders. DBT helps individuals build healthy coping mechanisms and improve their relationship with food by addressing the underlying emotional challenges.
DBT provides individuals with PTSD the tools to manage flashbacks, emotional triggers, and overwhelming distress. Through mindfulness, distress tolerance, and emotion regulation, DBT aids in the healing process by creating a sense of safety and control.
If you or someone you know is struggling with any of these conditions, DBT could be a life-changing treatment option. For same or next-day appointments with a mental health professional, visit Book an Appointment.
Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) follows a structured format that focuses on building essential life skills while offering individualized support. Unlike traditional talk therapy, DBT includes various components designed to help individuals manage emotions, improve relationships, and develop healthier coping mechanisms. Here’s what a typical DBT treatment program looks like:
In one-on-one therapy, clients work closely with a trained DBT therapist to identify personal goals, track emotional patterns, and develop effective coping strategies. These sessions focus on applying DBT skills to real-life situations, whether it’s managing a stressful event or navigating relationship difficulties.
Since DBT emphasizes collaboration, the therapist and client work as a team, reviewing progress and adjusting strategies as needed. This approach ensures that therapy remains personalized and goal oriented.
Group sessions are a key component of DBT, where clients learn and practice essential skills in a supportive environment. These sessions typically cover the four core DBT modules:
Group skills training is highly interactive, offering participants the chance to share experiences and practice newly learned techniques.
DBT recognizes that life doesn’t pause between therapy sessions. That’s why many DBT programs offer phone coaching, allowing clients to reach out to their therapist for on-the-spot guidance during difficult moments. This real-time support helps individuals apply DBT skills in their daily lives, making it easier to manage overwhelming situations without resorting to harmful behaviors.
One of the most unique aspects of DBT is its collaborative nature. The therapist doesn’t just give advice; they actively engage with the client in problem-solving and skill-building. Together, they set achievable goals, track progress, and develop strategies to overcome emotional and behavioral challenges. This partnership helps clients feel empowered, motivated, and supported throughout their mental health journey.
If you’re interested in starting DBT or learning more about how it can benefit you, check out our Blog Page for additional resources or visit our Book an Appointment page to get started today.
Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) offers a comprehensive and proven approach to managing intense emotions, improving relationships, and navigating life’s challenges. By combining mindfulness, distress tolerance, emotion regulation, and interpersonal effectiveness, DBT empowers individuals to develop healthier coping strategies and lead a more balanced, emotionally stable life.
Whether you’re dealing with anxiety, depression, borderline personality disorder, or other mental health struggles, DBT provides the tools needed to regain control, reduce emotional suffering, and improve your overall well-being.
If you’re ready to take control of your emotions and build healthier relationships, consider exploring DBT with PsychPlus. With same or next-day appointments, both tele-visits and in-office options, and a compassionate team of experts, PsychPlus is here to support you every step of the way.
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